Or perhaps none of them. I think the good news is, though, that the aversion seems to be dissipating, which I think is a good thing. It looks like it’s somewhat “ok” now for girls to have pubic hair, but then again, maybe I am biased because I exist in a small pocket bubble of the web (possibly much like a naturist being surrounded by like-minded folks) where it’s okay.

Right. I’m not opposed to body hair or having it all shaved offultimately, it’s a personal preference, and frequently one that I choose to approach differently depending on my own mood! Going back a bit, I am curious if there’s been differences in responses from girls and men to your blog?
BtoB: Not a significant difference, I do not think. I’d say that the bulk of my following is female but I don’t have any real way to analyze or prove that. I get e-mails from both parties and they appear to be shockingly similar.
I believe guys deal with a lot of these matters too, either from an alternate approach or a different point of view but similar things however. Men have told me they adore it when their partner does not shave, women have told me they hate shaving, both have told me I’m awful and disgusting and need to “buy a shaver.”I think the reaction is similar regardless of sex.
So there is a lot of stark comparisons then.
BtoB: I think with the web you consistently get more comparison. The folks who do not really have an opinion simply scroll past it with no view, it’s the ones who need to either commend you or shout at you who take the time to write.
As you have alluded to, our society has a lot of mixed up feelings about nudity in general, particularly social nudity. As such, a lot of effort is put into splitting nudity from sexuality, which makes sense. When I visit a naturist club or beach with my family, the last thing I want to see is sexual activity. But sometimes, I believe that we attempt a little too challenging to disconnect the two and demonize sexuality. You were asked about whether or not your were http://nudist-young.com/contributions/scandinavian-nudists.php with the idea that individuals might masturbate when looking at your site. I was quite interested by your answercan you discuss that a bit more and how sexuality plays a role in body acceptance, or being honest with your body?
BtoB: Yeah! That’s a question that I get a lot, and one of my favorite kinds of e-mails actually are from men who want to “apologize” to me because they found my website and began masturbating to a picture or two and then started read ing the text and ended up so on board with what I was saying that they felt guilty for using my images for self pleasure.
I totally get what you are saying about practically demonizing sexuality and splitting nudity from it completely. I think that the things do not need to be completely separate, you can see a naked body and be turned on by it and it does not make you a bad person or a “creep” or anything.
Sexuality is such a complicated subject, there is no way I could hope to truly know and understand it, but in my own experience it IS tied in to nudity even if we desire to pretend it’s not. There’s a susceptibility that happens when you are nude that is so different than when you are in clothing that it’s natural to have different feelings when you are naked or looking at someone nude.
I suppose I do not believe that sexuality is evil. I do not think nudity is evil. I do not believe that joining the two of them is bad. If someone uses my pictures or my body to masturbate to, good for them! They understand what they enjoy and they pleasured themselves and can return to whatever life they are living.
I find no harm in that. I believe that nudity does not HAVE to be sexual, and I Have been in situations where it definitely is not, but I do not think it needs to be totally removed from sexual feelings either.
And I think I should clarify – those emails aren’t some of my favorites because they are apologizing to me, but rather because they are just such honest reports of a bewildered person and it’s very endearing and somehow flattering.
That was really my next question. And the reality is that “context” is everything whether or not someone is clothed or bare.
BtoB: Absoluely. There are people in my life who I can take a naked bath in front of and it is totally nonsexual (for me, anyhow) and then there are individuals who I feel sexually charged around only when I take off my jacket.
And naturally, motive is part of that as well. Among the questions you get from many would-be naturists is if seeing people bare might relieve desire. It definitely takes away a sexual trigger and compels you to rethink sexuality, but I think absolutely. Imagine what effect that would have on advertisers!
One of my favourite posts is when you comment about your span being a chance to reflect on what other “private pain” others are enduring. It seems that in many ways, this endeavor has provided you a chance to get empathy. I am also reminded of two other places, your comments on Kasey Edwards letter and Charlotte Roche’s novel Wetlands.

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